Monday, February 15, 2010

the last student life

Her (my elder daughter) last work was completed, and fortunately it got a prize at a exhibition. My family went to see it yesterday to Yokohama.

The work is going to exhibited at three places in turn.

One exhibition is hold at the national art center in Tokyo. This exhibition is organized by five art schools. For students it might be one of a dream that their woks are exhibited at such a famous big public art museum.
I really thought this year was really an important and valuable year for them. All senior or graduated students must have pursed their times to make their works including my daughter.
And, I hear that most of students will not work at companies as businessmen or businesswomen. The word of "the most" might be exaggerated, but at least "half of " is right. And to be more correctly, at least half of students couldn't get official decision, though they tried to work at companies including my daughter.
We , of course, backup her. But yesterday I thought "What a many eggs of artist there are!"
They have manage to live their own life. I can't imagine their life because I was a steady business woman. And Yuki has been a steady business man. (These days even business men are not steady.)
And the works are great though, they can make their work because they have a place to make in their school, they can get material easily and inexpensively because their school support them.
After they graduate from their school, where?? How???
Fortunately, my daughter get part time job at her collage.
In my brain, various difficulties floats in turn, but it can't be helped. It is the life she chose.
What we can do as her parents are, being a big fan and doing a slight financial support with an IOU.


Anonymous said...

It is easy to "choose" a non-productive life if there is financial support from others. The question is for all parents, do you help children in the long-term to be independent when they are not forced to face the realities of life? Is there a limited time for money aid? At what point does a child become an independent adult? We all would like to spend our days at sports, or music, or acting or painting but that is not the real world for the majority of people.

Anonymous said...

The previous poster has some good points. In the US, there is a saying about parents "cutting the apron strings" with children when they reach adult age. That is, allowing them to make the same mistakes and sacrifices we, as parents, did when we were first starting out. Allowing (adult) children the opportunity to fail, to make and live with their choices is perhaps the most liberating and selfless act for parents. Often they turn out to be the best long-term lessons parents can give..the gift of maturity and the ability to make your way in the real world. Jan

Anonymous said...

To Anonymous
Thank for your comments, if you put your nick name there I could have called it with a big smile.
I agree with you. "a non-productive life " is not real life.
So for this term we (my daughter and we) were dicussing, talking.
In our case, she will magane her life while doing some part time job. Basicaly we don't any support, but fortunately she can live in the house with her sister next to my mother (So she could chose a non-productive life). If she needs much money to make somthing than the moeny she can earn, we'll support a little with IOU.
And I'm thinking too, what poind she become an independent adult? Is it the time her works can be sold? (but if the cost of the material is higher than the price of work.....)

Addtionaly, actually I have some students, but sometimes the cost of materials to craft with them and extra books I prepared for them are higher than the fee of their tuitions. It's OK for me if it's not often, but it means I'm not independed either.

Anyway I know Yuki and I are indulgent parents.

Thanks for your comments. Mieko

Anonymous said...

Jan, Thanks for your comments.
As you know Yuki and I graduated from the university of the physical science. On the other hand we like to play some instruements. And fortunately even now we have oppotunities to play the piano, or something as amateru musicans. It might influence her. When she chose the art corse, and we permied it, we had a foreboding this "unstable" life.
Did we do some mistake?
And I am as same as Tomomi at that point, we may not yet know the tru bitterness of the life. Mieko