I'm a Japanese housewife living in Japan. I'm in my 60's. I want to know daily lives in the world, so at first I'll tell my daily. What is your daily life?
Yesterday, in the afternoon the rain stopped. Yuki went fishing to the river. He couldn’t get any fish, but he talked some people who came fishing there. They also couldn’t get fish. Fishing in the river season has started. Of course he bought a monthly fishing ticket. He can fish in some rivers.
On the other hand I went to the gym. Yesterday it was crowded. Usually the gym is not so crowded. Probably in the morning it was raining. I talked some gym mates after so long.
I also read an English picture books including homonyms. Thanks to my friend I could solve the riddles.
Oh, I almost forgot to tell you. I got a hair cut at my friend’s beauty salon. We talked much. It took longer to talk with her than to get a hair cut.
Yesterday I talked to others a lot.
At night I did yoga. These days I constantly do something to exercise. It is a good thing, isn’t it?
It is rainy and windy. Unfortunately Yuki’s golf is canceled. He or we stay lazily today. It is not bad.
Yesterday we walk around a mall. Our pedometer showed over 5000 steps. We made it. We used a pedometer app in our iPhones. Do you use such an app?
We got to the mall around 11 a.m. The food court in the mall was already starting to get crowded. It is spring vacation. Students, the elderly and of course families were there.
There were two elderly couples having lunch together. What made us surprised was that all of four were eating Mac foods, not Japanese noodle. There many kinds of food shops such for all generation. All of them serve their food with reasonable price. So such a food court is popular for the elderly living on a pension like us.
We had a good time, there. Of course Yuki got some foods which were introduced on TV.
In the evening, I went to the gym. I also did yoga at home. What a good girl I was!
At night I did monthly household bookkeeping. It made the accounts balance. I was really satisfied.
April has started. In Japan a new fiscal year has started. At many companies, they hold an entrance ceremony for new recruits.
And it is also April fool’s day, isn’t it?
Yesterday I went to do workout at the gym “as usual.” I could hand in a monthly magazine to a gym mate. It was the first time to see her in three weeks. Three of gym mates including me, pass along to read it. The other lady buys it every month.
It got very cold suddenly in the evening. So I took a nap for a while. It is one of advantages of our retirement life, we can take a nap whenever we want to do it.
At night I helped my granddaughter to do her math homework by online chat. She goes to cram school during her spring vacation, though she doesn’t go there everyday.
Today, it is rainy and very cold. We are going to a big mall to do walking exercise.
Yesterday I “struggled “ with an English picture book which focuses on homophones. In the morning. It was too difficult, but I didn’t want to give up. So I asked my friend. As soon as I wakes up, the reply mail already was in my mail box. I was really happy, and some of my interpretations were correct. I was very happy. I can use the book for an online meeting of my English picture book club. It must be fun.
Yesterday afternoon I too participated in a meeting of sutra copying of sutras. I could spend a calm time.
I also compiled receipts and documents of this month. I finished our end-of-month errand. It was good.
Additionally I before going to bed, I did yoga. It means I did exercise a little.
The aim of this week is doing exercise constantly as much as possible.
Yesterday it got really cold. The temperature suddenly drooped. The day before yesterday it was over 20 decree celsius. Yesterday it was under 10 degree celsius. Today it doesn’t reach 10 degree celsius, but it will get warmer than yesterday.
Though yesterday it was cold and rainy, I went to do workout at the gym. This month I managed to go to the gym ten times. (Next Monday is in March, but it isn’t included.) I made it!
The monthly fee of the gym is 6050yen. So if I go to the gym 10 times. Each price is about 600yen. It is not so bad compared a cup of coffee of *****. Additionally Yuki’s tennis coat feels is 400 yen each.
Yesterday I made vegetable curry to use up the green vegetables in the fridge. It was good. And it is really helpful, because we eat it for our lunch and dinner.
I also made my weekly YouTube. I continue what I can do now. It is good, isn’t it?
Furthermore, a lady came here in the afternoon. Yuki joined our conversation for a change. Both three of us talked for about more than two hours. (He had no tennis meeting because of the rain.)
We thought yesterday Yuki was going to undertake chemotherapy. We misunderstood. He only had a follow-up examination after the first chemotherapy. He told the doctor about his side-effects from which he suffered for about three days, then he recovered. He also told hime that he went playing tennis as usual.
He is going to undertake chemotherapy& molecular target drug drip next week. His tumor in his lug doesn't grow bigger. And the other tumor in his neck looks disappeared by radiation treatment. we were relieved.
I did volunteer English picture reading at the library. Now it is spring vacation for kids. Lots of audience were there than I expected. I and the librarians were really surprised. It was a good time.
I talked with the stuff of the library. They welcome my donation of my English collection. They are going to put a special bookshelf for my collection. I was really happy.
After my volunteer activity I had luck at a cafe alone. It sometimes good to spend in a cafe alone.
I was a little bit excited after the volunteer reading. It was the first time in three years to do it by myself. So to make myself calm, I went to do workout at the gym. It made me a little bit tired physically. So I had a good sleep.
I translated an article in English. It was interesting.
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I’m in my 50’s. I work part time. About twenty years ago I got remarried to my husband who is 5 years younger than me. Now there are two members in my house. When my kids were teens, they asked me to marry again. He works very hard, and he is kind to me. However, when I talked with him, I get very tired.
Whenever I talk to him, he rejects what I say. When we watch TV, and I say “it’s great”, he always says “it is usual, **** (he mentions another example) is greater.” When I say “today’s job was very hard”, he says “it is usual.” He repones to me with quibbles or trips me up.
I ask him to stop saying like that. He changed his attitude temporarily. When he is at home, he is into playing games or watching anime on the net. When he talks to me, I always nod.
Do men always one-up to their wives to keep their self-confidence? It is absurd for me to always flatter him.
Mr.Patrick Harlan (TV personality)
Dear Ms. Venusian (Please call you like this), it is not a big trouble. It often happens between men and women.
20 years ago, a book “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus” made the best seller list in the world. According to the book, men focus on solving problems, and women focus on empathy. I don’t say everyone does, but in my case, when I listen to others, I tend to fix what they say like a Martian. I had an experience that I gave advice to my mother who talked me about her troubles in her workplace. She scolded me saying “don’t try to help me”.
Additionally, for many men they are one way to communicate with their mates to tease them, to trip them up, or to refute. Your husband may do it.
On the other hand, it is important for you to stay natural. How about making sure of what each other wants through conversation. And you will tell him that you need only nodding in this case. When ideal situation of both of you is not the same, your husband has no hard feeling. You try to think that he comes from another planet. I think you feel better at least.
My husband Yuki and I live in a regional city. Our retirement life has state since 2020. Though Something good, exciting, worried or bad often happens, we try to focus the current situation and spend enjoyable days while living offf our savings little by little carefully.
