Well, I made jelly with PIMM’s . Of course I put some sliced cucumbers. It was the first time for us. It looked good. But it tasted strange, though not so bad. Though this is in Japanese, if you are interested in my jelly, please watch it.
Yuki goes tennis, and at night he joins his band practice. It is usual Tuesday for him. It is nice.
Bamboo shoots season has come. Luckily I get them from some one back to back. I know it is luxurious, but we are a little bit tired of them. Additionally we always get pre-cooked one. Pre-cooking bamboo shoots is troublesome, I know.
Today I hold a laughter yoga meeting. Today only one lady is come.
Today we are asked to buy a bag of onions, a bag on bread. Yuki buys a box of wine. I try to find a big packs of “katsuobushi “ (dry bonito flake).
Well yesterday I went to see a dentist. Unfortunately my front teeth got bad again. Since I fell down and broke my front tooth, about two months passed. It took long to heal the pain because my mouth swelled bad. The treatment of my tooth didn’t progress so fast.
I hope my translation makes sense.
Trouble shooter 2024/04/16
Advice seeker
My daughter who is an elementary school student says “School is boring”
I’m in my 40’s and a nurse. I’d like to get some advice about my daughter who is a lower elementary school student. She tends to be negative. Since she went to nursery school she has said “school is boring” every morning.
Now she goes to elementary school, but she says “Nothing good happens to me at school. School is boring. I don’t want to go to school.” She has friends, and there seems to be nothing particularly unpleasant at school.
I say to her “School is not only for fun, there you can make friends, study. For you it is wonderful thing to be able to go to school and to live each day in good health.” However my words don’t resonate with her.
Actually, when I was a student, it was difficult to understand why I went to go to school. I’m thinking how to talk to her about school.
Adviser (a philosopher)
She is a lower elementary school student, isn’t it. It is the most difficult age. Without her will anyway she has to go to school. Children who don’t care about going to school are happy. But once they have a doubt that they go to school. It is nothing but unhappiness. They must think why they have to go to school.
For adults we know the reason. But for children, they don’t understand. Actually, you can understand the feeling of children. Your daughter is 7 or 8 years old. It is impossible to understand the reason.
So, it is wrong you think how to talk to her about school. What we should do as an adult, we try to change her surroundings to enjoy more for her.
Aymard Sartre who is a French philosopher said Angur Juman(engagement) is a way to participate in society actively. We, human begins struggle for free. It is a good point. You don’t let your daughter adjust to her current surroundings. You make more livable society for her.
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I had an interest to this article. I really understand this mother’s worry. On the other hand, it is difficult to understand the advice of this philosopher. It is not specific. It is a superficial advice.
It might be good to say that simply to her daughter “I didn’t understand why I should go to school when I was a student. Why? Let’s try to think about it together”. It is not necessary to say “if it is a heavy burden, you don’t need to go to school”. Because her daughter goes to school as of now. And as parents, it might be good for this mother to find some different places which her daughter might show interest after school. It might change her focus not on going to school to other things. So, she goes to school as a habit.
What do you think of it?
Yesterday we went to “two” used shops. The first one we could sell a board game, cards, unused socks and some gadgets. But there they didn’t accept Yuki’s golf clubs, because they seemed to be too old? or too dirty.
He was really shocked. But it turned out all right in the end. We went to a golf shop which handles used golf clubs. He could sell them at high price which We didn’t expect. Lucky Yuki!
I thought he would use the pocket money at a get-together with his tennis mates which is going to be hold this weekend.
But (I could also guess it), he will sell his driver which he uses, and using total money he will buy another used driver at the shop. He also got discount tickets at the shop. According to him, it will be win-win for both of the shop and him.
This week we are going to go the Costco (well, main thing is going to a clinic which is near the Costco). Probably Yuki will check new iPad at 5he Costco while I will be seeing the doctor.
Fishing season has started. He has already left. In the morning I “have to “ go to the gym. In the afternoon we are going to a used shop to sell some things including a putter.
This week a senior lady who lives my house suddenly hurt her leg, and became unable to move. She lives by herself. Our neighbors and her friends helped her for a few days. Her son came and took her to the hospital. There she got her fluid drawn from the knee.
Yesterday, she started moving. She is a really strong woman. I think it is about to time to rethink about her lifestyle. But It is her family issue. Her condition incited my anxiety about my lifestyle.
Cherry blossoms seem to be in full bloom. However they are starting to fall.
I take a video using Iphone slow mode.
Well, today’s breakfast is cake. Yesterday it was the day of my performance at Karaku. This time I got back this sweet. I know I have sweets too much for these two weeks. Tomorrow I have to take cholesterol check.
Here in Japan it is troublesome to discard four electric appliances, such as TVs, fridges, air conditioner , and washing machines. We have to discard them according to Home Appliance Recycling Law. When we change them into new ones, it is easy. Because the shop discards the old one. If they are new, probably used shops will buy them. When we discard old ones, we buy recycled tickets, and take them to the place which is specified by city.
Of corse we can ask a disposal contractor, though it is very expensive.
It requires some expenses to discard big things, and the cost is getting higher little by little.
This morning I picked some leaves from them.
Yesterday I did walking exercise, when I passed by my friend’s house, she was gardening. We talk a Ed a little and she gave this pot. Did I walk back with it? No, she gave me a ride with it. She is a really busy woman, so I was really happy to talk with her even for a short time.
This week I have to have cholesterol check. These days I often eat sweets and B-grade grommet such as Costco hotdogs.
Our daughters and grand daughter have already got back to each house.
It is a quiet Sunday.
In an hour we go shooping. Our stock such as coffee beans, sauce, and snack is out of stock.
In the afternoon Yuki goes playing teenis.
I organize each room. Now their blanckets, bed sheets, and pillow covers are being hanging out. It is a sunny day.
Yesterday in the late afternoon it began raining. Yuki finished playing golf before raining. As soon as I came home it started raining. We did exercise well yesterday.
According to the weather forecasts, it will be sunny. But it is still cloudy.
Today’s first mission of us is to vacuum the kids’ room.
We are going to see them at some near places.
The pie chart shows our expenses in March.
Light green item is food expense, it is as high as usual.
Green item is an expense of daily use item.
And brown one is utilities including kerosene.
It is higher than the same month of last year. Of course it is higher than last month.
It shows how prices are increasing clearly.
Well , pink one is leisure and entertainment expense. Mainly it was for Kadokawa culture museum visiting in Tokorozawa.
What made me surprised, I only walked 4000 steps. Than I expected the gym is closer to my house.
Today, in the morning a friend is going to come. In the afternoon I will go to the gym, and Yuki will go practicing golf at the practice range. It is the same pattern as yesterday. So probably I will walk back from the gym.
It is sunny. My nose has already started running. Today’s my mission is going to the bank and recording transactions in the passbooks. We use bank app. But I “like “ to check our account record in the passbooks manually. I am thinking that I will walk there or we go there by car and drop by some glossary shops.
Yesterday, I tried to use a function of my iPhone, which is “slow”. I took this short video using it.
Yesterday I set the timer to bake this bread. It smelled good this morning.
April comes in two days. Unfortunately cherry blossoms don’t bloom yet. They seem to bloom later cherry blossom forecast of this year. One of my friend went out to see cherry blossoms in Kyoto. She planned it last month. However they don’t bloom yet. I hope she will enjoy the trip without cherry blossoms.
As you know today it is 28th. 2 is pronounced “ni” in Japanese. 8 is pronounced “ha(chi)” in Japanese. At KFD it is called the day of “ni wa(ha) “. “Niwa(tori)” is chicken in Japanese. They sell 1000 yen special boxes every 28th day. Yuki loves one. This is our dinner. I don’t need cook dinner today.
Additionally next week he is going to play golf again. According to his plan he plays golf once or twice a month.
And the day after tomorrow he is going to take immunotherapy.
Then tomorrow I am going to do volunteer reading at the library. It is the first for me in three years. Unfortunately the volunteer is only me. The situation of volunteers is different now.
Well, the heater in the kitchen is working somehow now. But there is a strange noise. It is an old heater. Though I cleaned it as much as I could, I wonder if it’s reaching the end of its lifespan.
It is raining. Yesterday it rained too. Yesterday Yuki’s you best brother was going to come play tennis. It was canceled. Today it is raining, so Yuki can’t play tennis again. But tonight he is going to join his band practice. This weekend he has a live performance.
I will go to the gym in the morning. I will start to organize my closet little by little. At first I will check the first drawer.
It is a maginificient book libraly museum!!
HP is there.
Kadokawa Culture Museum (kadcul.com)
We were going to visit Yuki’s mother, but we didn’t. In her nursing home a person who is in the same floor of Yuki’s mother was caught by corona virus. So unfortunately we canceled to visit the nursing home to prevent risk. Because Yuki is going to take immunotherapy next weekend.
Do you think it is not national?
We visited my mother’s grave. Our elder daughter joined us.
Then we visited a museum. We could have enough time to visit there.
It was a good “leisure” day.
Additionally, to save money we fueled our car at Costco gas station before leaving here and fuel our car again when we got back here at Costco and had 180 yen hot dog for our dinner!
It was an interesting article. So I translated it. I open it makes sense.
Trouble shooter 0320
I finished taking apart of kimono of my friend. She gets started organizing her clothes. I also should do it more. There are still winter clothes in my closet.when I change them into spring ones, I will try to discard some of winter clothes. My goal is seven outfits for each season, though except coats, formal ones, sports outfits, and so on. (Probably exception is too much).
Well, yesterday I went to the library. On the other hand, Yuki went to a used book shop to sell four books including mine. Fortunately they were sold and he bought another used book there. Four books changed one book. We could put away three things. It was good.
What I want to say is that he prefers buying books to borrowing ones at the library.
Anyway Yuki constantly go playing tennis. Great! And his tennis mates are also great!
Yesterday I finished reading all books which I borrowed at library. So do I walk to the library to return them? It is cold today.
A new week has started.
Unfortunately the result of X-ray doesn’t change so much, but the blood test value is getting better, so he takes less steroids medicine and will start taking immunotherapy in two weeks.
Side effects might occur, but anyway his treatment starts.
Today I hold a laughter yoga meeting.
This week we were scheduled fully.
A lazy weekend is waiting for me.
It is a day for me to take cognitive behavioral therapy at a clinic. When I started to take it, I went there by myself. Next time, Yuki took me in his car. Then, we have decided to be members of Costco. Costco is just 5 minute drive from the clinic.
So it is our leisure day.
Additionally yesterday in the evening Yuki’s younger brother came here from Tokyo by local train. They drank outside and I joined them later having coffee. Yesterday it was also a leisure day.
Good morning. It is sunny. Yesterday I performed with my friend happily! However I had a trouble with runny nose. I have pollen allergy, so that I take medicine constantly in this season. But yesterday I had worse runny nose. So I took another strong medicine. As soon as I finished my performing I went back home in Yuki’s car, and fell asleep.
It is my performance day at Karaku cafe. In the afternoon.
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Continuing from yesterday I translated this article.
Dear trouble shooter
I'm a housewife in my late 50's I have two children; they are already married and independent. I live with my husband and my mother in our house.
My daughter who lives in a different prefecture. She and her husband are raising their child together while they work. When she came here, she said to me.
"When my brother and I were little, you only spoiled him, you were really strict with only me. Your child raising had a big difference. “
Raising her child reminds her of the difference. So, she decided to only one child. She never wants her child to have such feeling.
My daughter was selfish, and very offensive. However, I never have thought that I discriminated on brother and sister. I interacted her as well as my son.
I asked an advice to my husband. However, he said “Don’t involve me, it is a problem between two of you.”
I have a good relation ship with my son. How do I communicate with my daughter from now on?
Adviser
Miscommunication often occur, doesn’t it? However, if it happens in a family, it sometimes causes a big trouble.
Your daughter and your son had different characters, so you intreated them in different ways, but you loved and cherished both of them equally.
On the other hand, your daughter’s feeling that she was not loved as well as her brother is true for your daughter.
It is a pointless argument which is right. Could you apologize her? It doesn’t mean that you accept you didn’t love her well. You should proud of your love to her. But you should accept that your daughter felt sad and your behaviors hurt her. And from now on, you try to heal her such her feelings. You might thing that it’s not fair. However, it is very important to build better relation ship with her from now on.
The bigger trouble is your husband remark. It is not fair. You should face to him behavely.
Today we are going to buy each sport shoes.
My big toe hurt.
Yuki sometimes has a cramp in his leg.
It is about time to buy new shoes.
I like this article in the newspaper . It was posted by a subscriber who is 71 years old woman.
--I am growing flowers like my late mother. --
My mother passed away when she was 99. Everyone surrounded her said "you had a good life, you did your best" . I sometimes feel her saying to me "try to live it through up no matter what difficulty fell on you" from the heaven.
Looking back, she supported me saying "hang in there" when I was facing the most difficult time in my life, and I was very negative. Her saying and action are still now my emotional support.
Her husband (my father) and son (my brother) passed away earlier than her. She got through many difficult times. However, she never showed her crying. She is my role model in my life.
I have two ways to enjoy spring. One is growing flowers and weeding like her. The other is walking hills full of colorful spring flowers.
I'd like to live each day to the fullest with smile. I'm excited in coming spring. Thanks Mom.
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As I told you that this subscriber is 71 years old. How youthful and cheerful!
(I hope this translation makes sense)
I need do be careful of my back. The sudden coldness tend to make my back harder. I will do yoga at home today, though I am all talk.
At the end of this month I am going to do volunteer activity at the library. Finally they have started holding such meetings at public places though on an irregular bases.
I am going to make some goods with Origami.
Do I improve my physical power and muscle ? Probably no, but keep or decrease more slowly compared with the situation without going there.
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Yesterday I checked monthly our household accounts.
Last month we could keep it within the budget. It was unbelievable, in good meaning. However food expenses was more than last month. And about half of our household accounts was food costs. It was unbelievable, in bad meaning.
Our excuse is that ‘food is our entertainments”.
additionally Yuki’s alcohol and non-alcohols drink and “our” various tea ( herb tea, tea, green tea, and coffee) are included in food expensive.
