Karaku and an article

This Tuesday, it was the day of Karaku, I had good time to play the piano and to have a good tea and sweet.

Thankfully, even this time some constant people came to Karaku, a group of women came to listen to us ( I play the piano and Ms.U reads some poems).

There are many people, of course I know, and there are also many (or some ) people surrounded me.

I read this article. It was very interesting.

It might be a way of Japanese thinking, let me introduce it to you in my English.

This is an article posted to the Life Guide Corner by a reader who is in her 50's.
She seem to have some troubles to communicate with one of her friends who is in the same generation.

The adviser says:
You seem to be something wrong. Until now you and your friends seemed to share merits each other, but you seem to feel something unfair recently. It is the time to reconsider your relationship.
You should list up what are merits and what are demerits, and compare them. If merits are more you keep your relationship without any changes, if not you dare not to need to keep it. You shouldn't try to let her character changed. Some people can easily say good-bye, the other people try to fade out their relationship naturally by the way to decrease the number of meeting.
You can find like-minded friends anytime, any age. In a few years when you meet her again, she might be different from she was.
On a moment-to-moment basis considering the merits you should decide whether to keep the relation ship or not.


I tend to adhere to the relation ship once I built, I know it sometimes change to be a one-way communication. This advice is very interesting to me, though I don't like the way of using the words merits and demerits.