Yesterday I was going to the gym, but I didn’t.
I thought after I changed a contract of our utility paying, I was going to the gym.
It seemed to be able to do it on the net. But it wasn’t accepted on the net. So I called to the customer service. They were busy, I had to wait for a long time to get through to them. The time to talk to them was short.
Today I go to the gym in the morning.
The main of yesterday’s dinner was KFC fried chicken. The chicken nuggets are the rest of them.
Yesterday the date was 28th.
2 is pronounced ‘ni’. 8 is pronounced ‘ha-chi’
The connected sound of them is ‘ni-wa(ha)’.
On the other hand chicken is ‘ni-wa-to-ri’ in Japanese.
The first two two sounds of them are the same.
So on 28th they sell a special pack with four pieces of chicken and four pieces of chicken nuggets ina good price. I hope you understand my explanation.
September is just around the corner. We will go with the flow.
This weekend Yuki is going to be admitted to the hospital overnight and have lung biopsy. (I learned word recently from my friend. ) It is the first time for him to be admitted to the hospital in his life.
Though we don’t live in a big city like Tokyo. But here Utsunomiya is one of a big providence cities. And luckily a big hospital is near our house. So going to the hospital is not so big burden.
Our elder daughter T’s works are displayed in Takahsimaya department store in Shinjyuku, Tokyo. Luckily one of them sold.
After Yuki comes back, we will go shopping nearby. The lid of our bath tub got broken. And we need new bamboo brooms for gardening.
Yesterday LRT (kind of a street car) started operation.
Yesterday I changed a family contract. As I expected Yuki’s identification was needed to do it. Depends on our situation we will revise our lifestyle little by little.
Though it was planned, we bought new washing machine. It will come in 10 days. I wanted a bigger one than current one. But the door to the place where the washing machine will be placed is too narrow to let the machine go through. Our house is old liege us. Our house doesn’t suit to new style.
The size doesn’t change, but it is all right. Anyway new washing machine will come. Thanks for the longevity of the current washing machine.
There is a saying “little by little! A little becomes a lot”, isn’t there?
Yesterday we went to a telephone office . Until then to get more service our contract of iPhone was family contract. This time we changed our contract to ourselves. We have some family contract things. We are going to change them little by little.
Today I go to the gym. A friend of gym gave my kimono a makeover into a dress. Today I Am going to get it.
Additionally yesterday “I” went to clinic I regularly go, told the situation which suddenly appeared to the doctor, and got a prescription of pills for anxiety and medical Japanese kanpou(herb) .
Yuki goes playing tennis in the morning, updated his drivers license in the afternoon and go practicing his band at night.
I will stay home in the morning instead of going to the gym.
Coincidently, I have got an opportunity to sell my collection (seasonal goods and tableware) at Karaku. The owner offered one table to sell them. The things will be displayed next month. I constantly try ty discard or give the things we won’t use and minimize our life style. It is a good opportunity, but it is too sudden. I can’t make up my mind to let lots of things at once. Well, if they are not sold, I will take them to a used shop and let them go.
On the other hand my worry is getting bigger and bigger.
Additionally my mother who is in hospital has started eat some things by herself.
A new week has started. For two of us a new stage has started. Fortunately or unfortunately we could put our mind from our brothers’ troubles. We won’t be able to help them with nursing our mothers.
Today we go to hospital. Yuki has another detailed examination.
Today I accompany ? go?with Yuki to a big hospital. Unfortunately his health examination turned up some abnormalities (including lung). Though I don’t need to go with him, but I will go with him instead of going to the gym.
Obon vacation was over. We are back on track? Partly our usual days have started. Yuki goes playing tennis today. I spend lazily at home without going to the gym .
Tomorrow we go tot Tokyo.
My mother is hospitalized now. The day before yesterday she was taken to the hospital. The symptom is “aspiration pneumonia”. Now she is all right. She is able to talk. Some troubles are solved, and new troubles occurred. Anyway the burden my elder daughter who lives next to door seems to be more heavier.
She doesn’t need to bear such a burden. It should be my burden. She said that she can’t leave her grandmother alone. I understand her feeling. What I can do is to appreciate to her.
Today I am going to spend all the day lazy without going to the gym. I might organize tableware which are kept in upper shelves.
Good morning. I decided to visit mother today. I go there alone by train. In an hour I will leave home.
Troubleshooter 08/03
I am in my 60s, I have no friends.
I am a homemaker in my 60s. I retired from work three years ago. My husband still works. We have two children and they are already independent. Since I was young, I haven’t been good at communicating with others. It was troublesome to become friends with other mothers like me. I realized that I have no friends when I reached my 60s. After I retired from my work, I joined hobby circles or voluntary groups. I got some acquaintances but I don’t think they are my friends. People around me seem to go for lunch sometimes. I can exchange small talk but I can’t be anymore closer to them. And no one has tried to be closer to me.
My husband and me are a happy couple. We enjoy driving when my husband is off.
Probably he will pass away earlier than me. If it happens, it is said female friends are the most important and most dependable. I don’t know how to make friends. I’m worried about my lonely old age.
Adviser (a philosopher)
You seem to act alone up to now. Of course, you had your family so you didn’t feel loneliness to act alone. And you seem to feel troublesome to associate with others. I think you don’t need to force yourself to make friends. You imagine a lonely situation without your husband. I think if you can enjoy your own time yourself, you might not feel lonely.
Modern German philosopher Schopenhauer takes lonely free time positive. He says “To live alone is the fate of all great souls.” When I read his philosophy, I feel naturally that it is wasteful to force to spend time with others. It is a strange feeling. If you really want to talk with a person, or to do something with a person, it is another story. But if you want to distract your mind from your loneliness, you try to associate with others, it is wasteful of your old life, isn’t it?
At least Philosopher Schopenhauer valued his time alone and he accomplished his great work. What is interesting is that when a person lives attractively, naturally others get close to him or her.
Your worry should disappear when you make your policy clear, which is “how to live your life as who you are “.
Which do you choose, to force to make friends, or to take your alone life positive?
A new week has started. Is it hot again?
I keep discarding 10 things once a week.
Tomorrow Yuki and I get an annual health check.
We have already finished breakfast. I should leave in one and a half hours.
Good morning. It is a hot day again. Yesterday coincidentally I got cucumbers . In my house I had already cucumbers. So totally they got a lot. I decided to make pickled cucumber with soy sauce. I did it then I delivered some to some friends including the person who got me the cucumbers. It was a really busy and fulfilled day yesterday.
Tomorrow I have a haiku meeting. So today I have to polish up hikes which I will show tomorrow.
Troubleshooter 0728
“get-together” : I have a trouble when I have to talk about things I’m not familiar with
I’m a man in my 50s and a public servant. The other day a welcome party was hold for a new coworker who was assigned to the department I belong to. The participants sat at two tables separately. Our group had a lively conversation. The topic changed into anime, then I couldn’t join their talking and I felt isolated.
Looking back, since I was in elementary school, all I did was studying. When I faced to entrance examination to high school, I went to cram school on weekends, and I succeeded. I studied hard at high school, so I could enter the university I wanted to go. Nowadays I feel that I am losing something more important than studying.
I have few friends because I didn’t do anything but studying. When I held my wedding party, I had a trouble who were invited to my party.
How do I act when everyone starts talking about some things which I’m not familiar with at get-together. I get really disappointed. I want to overcome this feeling.
Adviser (a professor)
You recalled your bad memory about relationship when you felt that people left you out because you couldn’t catch up with their topics at the welcome party. However, you could enter the university you wanted, you have a good job, you are happily married. And moreover, you want to be in the center of the conversation. What an unnecessary worry!
Your question is how you will behave in such case. Probably you think that; good relationship needs a kind of skill. If you study harder and acquire the skill, you don’t feel such isolation.
My answer is that; you don’t need to change. You feel you can’t join the topic of the conversation, but it doesn’t mean people around you leave you out.
You don’t need to play the role you are not good at. When the topic is unfamiliar to you, you just sit there and smile. You make the isolation feeling to yourself, saying more correctly your pride makes you feel isolated. Until the topic changes, you can observe the others, or you recall your good memories. You should be easygoing. If you look easygoing, no one feels that you are lonely.
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When I read this article I recalled Yuki in his 50s.
When he was in his 50s, he was the busiest in his businessman's life, and probably most fullfilled or had most troubles.
On the other hand our dauhgters left home (not indepenedet becasue they were college students), so he got free on weekends. He started playing golf. He resumed music live performance on Saturday nights. Looking back, I think he started to prepare for his retiremnt life witout working, though he might haven't realized that at that time. He made other relationships without coworkers. When he became around 60, he didn't worry whether he continued working or not (even though we had finacial worry.) His coworkers in the same generation have worrked what they would do after retireing their work. So most of his friends continued working. And now most of them retired when they became around 64.
Yesterday I organized a closet where I put seasonal decorated things. There were some materials for kids’ English lesson. I asked a friend who sill has her own English class, though shoe is older than me. So I will send them to her adding something more.
I am thinking to let hina dolls out. But I can’t discard them. I know at some shrines they hold a burning ceremony for dolls. Though I hesitated or postponed to do it because of the cost. But it is about time to do it.
Last midnight we had terrible thunder. I woke up. Yuki was asleep.
And now we hear thundering though it isn’t rain.
Yesterday I went to the gym. I am wondering what to do today. And just now Yuki’s tennis is cancelled.
I might to discard 10 things of this week at home.
When I talked with my friend the other day, we realized again “simple is the best.
It has just started raining.
