I'm a Japanese housewife living in Japan. I'm in my 60's. I want to know daily lives in the world, so at first I'll tell my daily. What is your daily life?
It is Saturday. Fortunately Yuki didn’t need to be hospitalized, though he has to continue taking steroid medicine to heal pneumonia for two weeks. And unfortunately his chemotherapy is stopped. The chemotherapy this time he takes seems to work on the CT image. The docomo seems to think what caused his pneumonia. Did it come from summer cold? If it is right it seems to be too long. Did it comes from radiation or ICI he took before? Or is it a side effect of this chemotherapy?
What we are afraid is having on treatments. But anyway it is impotent to heal his pneumonia.
According to the weather report it won’t be hot like yesterday. So he is going to “meet” his tennis mates.
It is the last day of July, isn’t it? It was a long month.
Though Yuki is coughing is getting better, tomorrow we have to go to the hospital.
Yesterday, he we went to a hot spring with full of radon gas where it takes about one hour by car.
He seemed to find another hobby? mission. This time didn’t go with him. Next time I might go with him. I don’t like “hot” hot spring very much.
I organized our family photo book in 2025. Sine I started annal photo book 11 years have passed. Why July?
Our grand daughter was born in July. To celebrate her birthday I started to make our family photo every year. She grew up, so she doesn’t visit us so often. It might be the last photo album.
It was a long day yesterday. Fortunately he didn’t need to be hospitalized. Another medicine was prescribed. For a while he decided to stop playing tennis. But tonight he is going to participate in his band practice.
Today I go to an orthopedic clinic. I have still trouble of my hip joints, though they are getting better.
Yesterday we had lunch at a convenience store in the hospital when we were waiting.
Today I would like to have something good outside. It is too hot for me to cook. Or I might buy something to eat at a supermarket on the way home from the clinic.
We decided to go to the hospital today, though we are going to go there this Friday. Yuki’s coughing is worse, and feels dull more. We are afraid of pneumonia. Last time he was hospitalized, he had pneumonia.
These days I don’t write positive things on this blog. I lean on this blog to show the sign of my weakness.
It is Sunday. Though both of us are feeling summer fatigue, we are getting better. Yesterday I organized and cleaned the fridge. Now the washing machine is washing our bed covers and so on.
For these 10 days I didn’t cook much. .So unfortunately I wasted some ingredients.
When Yuki feels dull, I am easily upset. (On the other hand it is a usual thing for me to feel dull.)
It is Saturday. Since Yuki ran down, ten days have passed. To tell the truth there are ups and downs in his physical condition. For us it is the first experience. I know he is struggling with his condition very hard. But let me dare to say, I also feel lots of anxiety.
On the other hand he constantly updates his YouTube while composing original music. I am relieved he has a good hobby.
Today Yuki’s friend comes with fresh organic eggs. Probably Yuki will eat the fresh raw egg with rice.
It is the last weekday of this week. Kid’s summer vacation has started.
Thankfully this week we have no fever. Yuki has a little cough. We don’t know it comes from his illness, or a side effect from summer cold. Anyway he seems not to need to go to the hospital.
This week he doesn’t go playing tennis. I think considering his situation it is absolutely reasonable. Now this area heatstroke alert has been issued. Additionally the other members play tennis every day.
He could go to a regular clinic to get a shot to reduce his side effects because of no fever. He also goes there today.
On the way home we have bought our meals. I am giving up cooking this week including today. Though I always say the same phrase at the end of every month, I am scared to do our monthly household account book. Not only meal cost , it also usually medical cost. I went to clinics more than usual and bought more Japanese’s herb medicine to reduce our summer fatigue.
Thankfully our gardener came and trimmed and cleaned the garden. He was working wearing a special cool jacket.
Additionally, I canceled my laughter yoga meeting and volunteer reading at the library this month, because I was really worried an out Yuki’s situation.
Today it is a holiday. Unfortunally both of us have a slight fever. I have a sore throat. Both of us are really dull. It is a typical symptom of summer cold.
Both of us are in bad mood, so each of us stay lazily and quietly in each room.
If he has still fever tomorrow, he has to go to a clinic, and me too.
Unfortunately both of us have caught a summer cold. Yuki has still a little fever. Last night I had a fever, but now I have no fever, though I am really dull.
For me, it is a usual symptom. But Yuki he seldom catches a cold. He seems to be depressed. Anyway he stays in his room, and composes his music, and sometimes he lies down.
We should survive this summer cold and scorching summer.
Fortunately we had lot of food stock in the frizzer, and fresh vegetables are delivered. So we have no problem about food, though I cook “a little”. Fortunately he has enough appetite.
A busy long week is finished. We spend lazily at home this weekend.
Yuki’s new medicine seems to work, but unfortunately he got a fever on Thursday. Now he has a slight fever and is getting better. So the medicine was stopped for a while.
The way to take this medicine is taking it three or four weekends every day and stopping two weeks. This is the first cycle. He can take this way ??? cycles. Anyway for two weeks he doesn’t take anticancer drug, though he takes the other medicine.
To tell the truth when he got a fever I got upset and panicked. Now we are all right.
Without noticing some food is past its expiration day. I have to organize foot stock shelf. It is a usual weekend to let go off 10 things.
Unfortunately Yuki canceled playing golf because raining.
I was going to do errands downtown by myself. Luckily I got a driver.
Rain is not so hard.
It is in the middle of this week. The half of this week, we spent a lot time heritage issue including talking with our lawyer, the later half of this week , we go to hospitals.
Typhoon is coming to Japan, but it won’t hit straightly this area. It is cloudy, and sometimes raining. Today’s Yuki’s tennis is canceled.
Yesterday we visit a dentist who is Yuki’s friend. Why?
I handed in this month mold.
How did I use this? I used this to explain English pronounce. It was one of my important gadgets. So I am really happy to find a person who wants to use it.
Then, I put this information on my Facebook which is open to limited people. Since I closed my English class I haven’t updated my Facebook. My Facebook mates are mainly Japanese English teachers.
As soon as I updated my face log with this picture, I got many comments from my Facebook friends. Some of them have the same mold. It was like a reunion of my English teacher mates. It was fun.
Yesterday, Yuki saw his doctor, and got another prescription. His medicine problem was solved. Next Friday we are going to see his doctor again. The we go to another clinic, where he get a shot constantly to reduce his side effects.
We had lunch stake.
Then he joined his friend’s birthday party jam session. I was sleeping in the afternoon. In Japan, it is said that if you lie down right after eating you will turn in to a cow. (Fortunately today I am not a cow.) unfortunately I am still tired. This afternoon I will receive acupuncture. It is my modest luxury.
Yesterday afternoon, we had a thunderstorm. The thunder was really loud. Then itwas a comfortable night, we could sleep without air conditioner. This morning it is also cool.
The issue , we think, is being settled, though it seems to take for a while to solve it perfectly.
Another small problem occurred. Yuki seemed to take medicine mistakenly more than a fixed amount of times. So a shortage of medicine occurred. We have to go to the hospital in the morning. Everyday something happens. What do we eat our lunch today “outside” ?
Yesterday I could perform at Karaku cafe. Thankfully regular costumers and other people came so the Karaku was full.
Today in the morning a woman comes to my home library. She runs a small used book store. She doesn’t come to buy books, she is interested in my home library.
Yesterday afternoon I gave up! I seemed to get heat stroke. I canceled a meeting on zoom. This morning I feel better, but stroll not fully recovered. The main symptom is dizziness. I hope I will go to KARAKU today.
I could have light breakfast. In the morning I stay quietly in my room.
It is still early morning. It is hot. It is the first time to turn on the air conditioner this time. We are going out to go to a clinic. I am thinking on the way home from the clinic, we will stop by at a supermarket and buy delicatessen for our lunch and dinner.
Did I write about our smoothie? These days I constantly make smoothie with one fourth of head of cabbage and one banana and have it with our dinner.
Well, since I stopped using progressive grasses, as the eye doctor said, my eyes have been less tired, though it is troublesome to change grasses often.
A new week has started. We have to make it through this hot summer.
Yesterday I gave one box of my English picture book to a young lady. She is born in Malaysia and grew up in Australia. She works here as an assistant English teacher at public schools. She said she would like to use Englishpicture books at her lesson, and to lend them to her students. I was really happy. I invited her to come to my home library. Probably, she will come during summer vacation.
Since he started taking new medicine one week has passed. Thankfully he hasn’t got bad side effects. In one hour we go to the hospital. Then we are going to an art museum.
It is Friday. Tomorrow probably we talk with our lawyer.
Anyway we “survive” this hot weather.
Additionally last night we had heavy . It caused flooding on the nearby road. According to the weather report, the wet season on this area will finish on next Monday.
Today, we have no plan. If we go out in the morning probably we will have lunch outside. To save money we will stay home in the morning.
This weekend a Chinese mother will come to take some of my English books. Next week a friend visit my home library. I am really happy to welcome some guests.
Yesterday I bought two new glasses. I used bifocal grasses. It seems to be burden for my eyes. I made grasses to see far, and to see around me. (Progressive lenses). Of course I have reading glasses. Now I am wearing reading grasses to write this blog.
It is good for my eyes.
The bad point is the bag I go out is full of gadgets: grasses, smart hone, sunscreen, arm and warm covers protecting myself from air condition, salt candy, etc.
P.S I used the word "bifocal grasses". What differences are there between bifocal grasses and progressive grasses. There is no line between upper and loweer, so my grasses are porgressive grasses???
I have to call a dentist. Sorry I started today with complaining.
On the other hand today I get my new grasses. It is fun.
These days against this hot weather we have homemade cabbage and banana smoothie. I use a quarter of head cabbage and a banana for two of us. Of course not add sugar. It is good.
Tonight I am going to join a Zoom meeting. It is also fun.
Yuki has no plan today except going to a clinic. He might go practicing golf though I think it is too hot.
It is July. A half of year has passed. For two of us, the issues of this month are two things. One is a new chemotherapy treatment, the other is the inheritance issue.
The end of month I will do volunteer reading at the library because kids’ summer vacation will start.
Today, we go to the hospital. But just to see the doctor. In the afternoon Yuki is going to join jam session at a jazz cafe. I am going to the gym to do one circuit exercise.
Well, this weekend, I organized a Japanese room. Finally the “tokonoma” appeared again, where was used as a storage place.
A new week has started. The first my mission is going to an orthopedic clinic. Then we go downtown to get some official documents for inheritance. Do we have lunch outside? Might be. Last week we had lunch outside every weekday.
At night I am going to review the account book of this month. I feel headache. But keeping our household account book is “kind of” my hobby.
In West Japan, the rainy season finished. In this area it is still in the wet season. But it is really hot.
This morning I go copying sutra at a near by temple. Did I go there last week? Yes I went to the temple last week. But it was not a day to copy sutra. It was my mistake. So I talked the chief priest and came home.
Fortunately Yuki’s side effects are mild as of now. He is going to compose music in his room today. And he might clean and was his car.
The kind of Yuki’s chemotherapy treatment changed. Instead of I.V, he started taking oral medicine of anti cancer drug twice a day. Anyway today he is able to go playing tennis while taking some breaks.
It is hard for the patients and their family to coexist with cancer.
We'll leave home in an hour. It is COSTCO day, it menas I take CBT(cognitions behaivor threapy). On the way home from Costco, we stop by at some friend's house to deliver some thing they asked us.
It is fun!
One complaint is that; I tired of having the hotdog. I don't mind to have Mac hamburger. A Mcdonard is in front of the Costoco. Additionally there is a Starbacks next to the Costco.
Today I am going to go to a grass store to change my grasses for my PC .
Yesterday one boy dropped by at my home library. It is the second time for him to come here. His friend came to get him, and he started playing outside. Talking with him was fun.
In the evening I walked around my house. Coincidentally I met a friend. It was the first time for us to see her in several years. Both of us were walking. Of course we started chatting. Probably chatting time was longer than walking time. It was fun.
Yesterday we visited three clothe’s shop. He could get two summer shirts. I didn’t buy anything new!
As soon as we got home, it rained cats and dogs. I was going to go doing one circuit exercise, a gave up.
Instead of it, I do light exercise for my hip joints.
It is drizzling, it is exactly a weather of the wet season.
I am making candied rhubarb. Today it is the third day, and final day. I take out the melted sugar fluid , boil it and pour it on the rhubarb twice a day.
A new week has started. Yesterday we checked our summer clothes . Mine is all right, I could put away one dress. Yuki said “it is too small”. So he is going to discard four clothes in the afternoon. It means we are going to go out for looking four his new clothes: summer shirts.
Yesterday I talked with a friend on the phone. She is older than I, but she still manages her English school.
She lives in the next prefecture, it is too far to visit her easily.
It is all right. If she lived within one hour distance I would often visit her to complain. Well, if I could, she must be too busy to listen to me.
After having dinner I took a walk for 15 minutes. I was surprised that how many people were walking. Though it is the wet season, it is really humid and hot.
According to the weather forecast, this week we have rain, though it is cloudy and humid today.
It’s 7 AM. I’ll leave home in one and a half hours. Why? From this month sutra copying meeting begins at 9 o’clock.
Actually for me having low blood pressure it is a little bit difficult to do morning training. Though it is said the elderly are morning people, I am not.
Addition I am not a night person.
Yesterday a friend presented me a bunch of rhubarb. In the afternoon I am going to make candied rhubarb. It doesn’t use fire, though I have to disinfect a jar in hot boiling water.
Yesterday the laughter yoga meeting was fun. I am in my 60’s. Another one is in her 70’s. And the others are in their 80’s. At first we talk our complaints —— all of them “my …….s hurt!” All of them go to an orthopedic clinic as a usual thing. Well I know I myself am strange why I am included.
Then to rewrite negative things into positive things, we talk what was good, what made us happy, what we appreciated in this month.
Two each women say “I could visit my friend.” Their friends live in the same city but it is far to go on foot. Going there by bus is troublesome. They have to walk to the bus stop. They have to change the bus. The bus comes once an hour. Going there by taxi is, they say, “Too expensive”.
This time each of them found a person who took them by car. One is her friend’s friend’s husband.
Yesterday Yuki could play golf. He was so exhausted that he went to bed earlier than usual. Though he doesn’t have much energy as he used to, he still enjoy sports. It is a good thing.
I went to an eye clicking in the morning. It was really crowded. I was sitting for long hours. In the evening I did one circuit exercise at the gym, but my back hurt at night. I put a patch on my back.
I don’t know which gave my back damage, sitting for long hours or just light 10 minute exercise (most of time I was stomping lightly on the walking board skipping half of machines ).
Today I hold a laughter yoga meeting. In the evening we go to a dental clinic.
Yuki has already left. Why? To play golf. Probably it is the first time for him to play golf this year. He seems to go through his side effect tunnel. It was longer this time.
“Thankfully” yesterday I was presented seasonal vegetables : summer bamboo and Japanese pepper berries. To tell the truth these days hot and humid days continue, so I didn’t want to cook. Actually I bought delicatessen for our dinner.
But I couldn’t waste it. And I know it is very important to cook as fast as we possible when we dig or pick them.
We’ve already finished our breakfast. It was 40 minute earlier. Why?
Today Yuki gets a CT in the afternoon. He has to finish lunch two hours before it. It means our lunchtime before 11 a.m. There are some cafes which serve “morning set. “For me”, it is fun. So we got earlier than usual and had early breakfast.
Yesterday I did one circuit exercise. It troll about 20 minutes. I skipped a half of machines, instead workout using them, I was walking in place. Additionally when I was at the gym, Yuki bought 2 summer pants as his lounge wear at home.
Yesterday, it took longer getting physical therapy and seeing the doctors at the orthopedic clinic. After that we went to Yuki’s clinic as usual. I was tired. So I couldn’t go to the gym. The orthopedic doctor said “light exercise is all right”. Today I was going to do one circuit exercise in the afternoon. While I am doing, Yuki is going to “browse” his clothes at supermarket next to the gym.
Now I wear a T-shirt. It is the first time to put on a T-shirt from early morning. Until yesterday I changed a long sleeve shirt into a T-shirt in the afternoon. Today it is already hot. Is it the wet season?
My first mission of this week is going to an orthopedic clinic to get a physical therapy. Additionally in he morning Yuki has no schedule (usually on Mondays he has no tennis meeting.) he said “I will take you to the clinic. While you get it, I will be at Uniqlo clothes shop.”
On the other hand if the doctor permit to one circuit exercise which doesn’t include ones for waist and back, I want to go to one circuit exercise in the afternoon while Yuki goes to the supermarket which has alcohol, and inexpensive clothes. (It means the clothes are cheaper thanUniqlo’s.)
Anyway today’s his condition is not so bad. I am relieved.
It is Sunday, Yuki has no plans because of raining. He will go to a radium hot spring where it takes one-hour drive. He got this information from a Jazz mate. Will I? I won’t. Now I want to avoid a long (over one hour) drive. These days we often did it, and it made my sacral bone pain prolonged.
It is good for Yuki to go out. His stress is relieved. Now his biggest stress is his mother’s inheritance issue. I thing it will take long to settle.
P.S
After updating this blog. It stopped rain. Yuki went playing tennis. And in the afternoon he will go to the hot spring. Though I think he does too much, I can’t stop him. For the outside he does not look good because of coughing, though he says muscle pain is reduced.
Can you see Yuki’s photo? It is a mail box in a town. There are some popular milk farms in this town. The post box in front of the station is milk style.
I could let go two-thirds of my English picture collection books. Are my bookshelves empty? Not yet.
Well, I forgot to tell my readers. Yesterday I updated a wrong YouTube of Yuki’s. U have already another one. Yesterday the number of the music Yuki composed exceeded the number of Beethoven’s.
It is cloudy. Today we will go to a local community center to donate some English picture books. These days suddenly new movements to my English book collection happened. Thankfully I found three groups who want to use my collection. Yesterday I sent a cardboard box of books to a person who owns her art room.
I also got an e-mail. During summer vacation they want to events of storytelling using English picture books. I am happy they rely on me.
Today it is sunny. According to the weather forecast it will be sunny or clouds for these two days.
I am thinking what were good and thankful things.
We know a reliable lawyer, we had a good talking with him yesterday. Yuki continues getting treatments. And we had tasty sandwiches for lunch at a cafe. Thanks for the lawyer, thanks for the doctor.
And writing this blog makes me calm. Thanks for tie visitors to my blog.
It is rainy. The wet season (or rainy season) has started. Another stage has started. Last night Yuki talked the lawyer.
Yesterday it was the day of Karaku. Though it was rainy, it was full. Our audience are mainly older people than us, though some of them are in their 50’s or 60’s. The owner’s couple became in their late 70’s. Anyway my friend and I enjoyed at the current moment of Karaku cafe.
A new week has started. We are overwhelmed by many different emotions. Anyway we do what we can, and should do today. Today’s missions are going to a clinic, and “grocery shopping” (is it a mission?).
Yesterday it was the day of placing the body of Yuki’s mother in the coffin. Our daughters attend it, we also saw it through their iPhones. After each daughter went back home. I talked with each daughter.
It was a long talking on the phone.
Though all of us have a lot of emotions, all procedures seem to go smoothly. On next Monday her (family and close relatives) funeral is going to be hold.
Today, we will change winter carpets into summer carpets. We have to wash and dry the winter carpets at the nearest laundromat. It is the first mission of today’s.
Yesterday, Yuki’s mother passed away. She will be 97 years old in late June. Her funeral is going to hold next Monday, but unfortunately we won’t attend it. Yuki has to take another treatment.
Anyway fortunately we could meet her the day before yesterday.
We are relieved to hear that she passed away calmly, and without pain.
Our daughters go and help their aunts in-law (Yuki’s elder brother’s wife).
We really thank to our daughters.
We go to a clinic on schedule to heal his side effects as much as possible.
Yesterday it was a long “drive” day. Since we drove to Tokyo last time, five months have passed. Just five months, but Yuki’s condition has apparently changed.
His mother was asleep. Though unfortunately we only saw her sleeping face, but she seemed to feel no pain, looked calm. Her nursing home seems to be comfortable, and care workers seem to be kind and friendly. (It was the first time for us to visit her new nursing home where she moved four months before.)
We could visit my mother’s (and my father’s & my grandparents’) grave.
We are satisfied with doing those things.
We are going to see Yuki’s doctor, today. In one hour we will leave home.
In one hour we will leave for Tokyo to visit Yukik’s mother. She got worse. Tomorrow, Yuki is going to take chemotherapy, and probably he will surfer from side effects for a while. In good meaning it must be a good timing.
Anyway we do what we can do and what we should do.
Today in one hour, I'll go to see an orthopedic doctor and have a physical therapy. Will be able to resume workout?
Yesterday it was rainy. There was a low air pressure. Did it make me depressed? No, it made me very sleepy. In the afternoon I was asleep while listening to the radio.
Though I had a plan, I cancelled it. Nowadays I have almost nothing I have to do. It makes me sometimes lazy, but it makes me less stressed.
Yesterday we were reviewing our home documents, like passwords list, house budget, and so on. Then when we printed them out, the printer couldn’t work. We could fix it somehow. It took longer than we expected. In good meaning we could spend fulfilling afternoon.
Though it is another thing that what is a simple life, it is really difficult to have simple life.
In the evening, our next neighbor shared a watermelon to us. It was the first watermelon of this year. Unfortunately it was a cool (cold) day. We ate turning on the heater.
Yesterday, I did walking exercise. Though it was a good thing, I seem to walk too much. This morning my leg hurts. The orthopedic doctor said “it is all right to start walking” . I have increased walking. Steps little by little. Anyway today I will walk a little.
Yuki said having breakfast “my tennis mates (in their 60’s &70’s) said “ everyone who is in our generation says somewhere hurts when we wake up in the morning.”
Two of us said “definitely”with a big laugh.
Additionally Yuki hurts his shoulder and wrist, because he played the guitar too much to join in jam session yesterday.
It is cold for me, though someone says “cool”. Usually I change winter carpets into cotton carpets, but I don’t do it yet.
Yesterday we went to karaku cafe. I presented the owner a bag of coffee beans with whiskey flavor. The owner’s couple showed an interest to the cafe in a rural area. Karaku’s owner also took early retirement and opened his cafe with his wife, though he worked for a different company from one Yuki worked for.
When he took early retirement, it was an unusual case. Since Karaku cafe opened about 35 years have passed.
Yesterday, we drove a little bit far away to have special coffee.
The owner roasts coffee beans at his cafe. There is an interesting roasted coffee beans, which isi the beans with whiskey flavor. A kind of beans are roasted with whiskey. While they are roasted, alcohol has gone, only flavor remains.
It was an interesting taste. I can’t drink alcohol, so I could enjoy whiskey flavor. On the other hand Yuki seemed not to be satisfied. The flavor made him want real whiskey.
Additionally the owner took early retirement and started his cafe in the “really” rural area. Additionally he used to work for the same company of Yuki used to. Bites of them have some common friends? For the owner they were managers, and for Yuki some of were his colleagues.
How do I get along with my mother who is obstinate and difficult?
consulter (a lady)
I’m in my 50’s and an office worker. I have a trouble about my mother who is demanding and obstinate. She tends to react negatively to what other people say and do. So, she tends to become isolated fromher family and relatives. On the other hand, she often relies on me conveniently and manipulates me as she wants to.
She has no friends who care about her. She has too much pride. When someone doesn’t accept her opinion, she becomes enrage and gets rid of them with really bad words.
In her daily life, she insults athletes who are doing their best, or couples who take a walk happily.
She is also really calculating person, so she is obsessed with money and things. Though she is my mother; she has a bad character.
I understand that, my home environment is different from hers. Her aging brings her worries and irritation. So, I want to be kind to her, but it is really difficult. How do I calmly get along with her?
Advisor Mr. F (writher)
How kind you are. You understand and try to accept her uncomfortable feeling and irritation.
However, even though her bad words are not to you, but to others. When you hear them, you get hurt. When you see her bad character like being calculating her, and being obsessed with money, you get hurt more. The people surrounding her seem to give up communicating with her except you. So, you are the only person whom she relies on in good meaning and bad meaning. You are the only person she can vent her frustration.
However, you don’t need to fall victim to her. You seek for some advice to this column. It means you seem to reach the limit of your patience. You should declare your uncomfortable feelings. How about you distance yourself from your mother? But you should do it with strong determination to prepare thoroughly. Your mother must attack you with really bad words to deny you. You are not wrong. Even considering the difference of environments between two of you, many people who are in the same generation as your mother’s spend their elder lives calmly.
I hope you won’t be hurt much because you care about your mother too much.
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Let me say my opinion and feeling.
I really understand this consulter’s feelings. When I was in my 50’s, I had the same, though my mother was not isolated, I think. But I was really worried that how to calmly get along with my mother. She was really selfish. I visited my mother in Tokyo twice a month or more. Before the day I visited, I was usually stressed out. And when I talked to her, though she was selfish, she looked very happy. And after visiting I was satisfied my self to do my job as a daughter. So, in her case, probably she should distant herself from her mother, but, on the other hand she has to face to herself and consider her duties as a daughter.
Now I’m still in my 60’s. But I am really afraid to become such selfish, calculating and being obstinate in the coming years. Because I inherit my mother’s character.
Yesterday I joined in an online meeting. Though all members were Japanese, I was the oldest.
The topics are "Fame".
I'll intorduce my opinions to some interesting questions.
◆How do you feel about fame? Do you think that fame can make people happy?
Fame seems to be one of results. Doing the best and achieving success results in him or her having a fame,or fame is also one thing which has been passed down for generations.
Some people must be happy having fame, others are not, though it applies to anything. However, people tend to want fame including me. Additionally, even if I had fame, I wouldn’t know whether I would be happy or not.
◆What problems can fame bring? What would bother you most about being famous?
Probably they will lose their privacy. People! Probably it will be difficult who I trust, and who I must not trust.
◆Where would you live if you were very famous and had a lot of money?
I would like to live in a condominium with perfect nursing care and entertainment.
About this quesion, I only answered seriously. Other's answeres included positive dreams.
Yesterday, I walked about 4000 steps. As soon as I started walking my right leg felt stiff, but it got better. I will constantly walk every day about 4000 steps. Next week I go to an orthopedic doctor, then I will resume workout at the gym.
Yesterday I kept track of our monthly household accounts. Do you do it? Of course we can’t make ends meet on our pension, we withdraw our savings little by little. Our main daily expenditure is “food and meals”. The food & meals include things which we buy at Costco. Food & meals are one of our entertainment.
Yesterday a new visitor dropped by my home library. She was walking exercise. She wasn’t interested in English picture books, but showed interest to some Japanese books. She is busy in nursing her mother who is 87years old. For a while we talked about nursing elder people.
It was fun.
For a while I won’t be able to goto the gym, so I open my home library in the morning when I don’t need to go to the hospital or clinics.
Usually I open my home library in the evening (it is the same when I used to open my English class), or someone contacts me.
Yuki’s band live of yesterday ended n a high note. Yuki’s tennis mates came to see it. It was a good day. I also could skip cooking. We had lunch outside, then after the live we bought lunch boxes for our dinner at a department store.
Additionally, now the laundry machine is washing his costume (pants, shirts). After it, ironing them is my job.
Today it is Yuki’s band live day. Fortunately, he seems to go through the tunnel of his side effects. I don’t know whether the expression “go through” is suitable or not. In Japanese it is “Nukeru.” Many can see patients use the word, instead of heal. They should go through the tunnel at least every three week.
This time the tunnel was longer than last time,
Though I already wrote, to heal his muscle hot joints) pain, we bought two new mats. (Don’t ask me why we? )
To fix my bad posture I bought a gaming chair at a furniture store. Two new mats, but one gaming chair? He found another one at a used shop. And he bought it.
My back pain is getting better. Today I am going to get acupuncture again. Yuki’s muscle pain is also getting better. He might go playing tennis today. Tomorrow his band is going to perform. Tomorrow’s event is his top priority. So he might stay home today.
To tell the truth it was a little bit tough week for us, even though we went out almost every day.
Yesterday I hold a laughter yoga meeting. At chat time, we told three complaints, troubles or worries.Coincidently, or naturally, all of them complained our pain.
Then we told three things, what we did, what made happy, what we thanked. Coincidently or naturally food or confectionery made us happy. And all of them did gardening.
Yesterday we went to an art museum for a change of pace. Than we expected Yuki’s joint pain? muscle pain is continued. Two of us are suffering such pains, we feel to get really old, even though his pain is not caused by his aging.
Anyway in the morning I hold a laughter yoga meeting. Three elder ladies are going to come. Of course they are older than me.
We will talk with a radiologist at the same hospital. We usually talk with her after Yuki has a CT scan. Of course we also talk with his main doctor of respiratory medicine. It is good for us to talk with and listen to the two doctors.
Today he also has a shot to prevent from decreaseing the number of leukocytes. From his expereicne, after having the shot , he tends to have a slight fever. But he is going to join in his band practis tonight.
Yesterday I could go to nearby temple to copy sutras (syakyou). My back is getting better.
Today we are going to a city garbage center. I decided to discard “Zaisu” which is a chair without legs and used when sitting on the floor. Additionally I also discard other folding chairs which were used at a classroom when I had students.
I discarded many things about my clam school, but I thought I still have some (or many). How many things are stuffed in this small house? (Ms. J knows how small this house is!)
To tell the truth, it is difficult for me to focus on and keep positive minds. I’ll try to do it.
Yesterday two of us and our friend had a wonderful morning at a cafe.
Fortunately it was raining, so we were the first customer there.
In the afternoon I decided to buy a new chair to do PC work. We went to a furniture store. I could order one on net, but I wanted to sit directly. I decided one. A new chair comes next Wednesday (Yuki should
assemble it.) we know the type of the char I bought is called “gaming chair”. There is another type called “working chair”. What is the difference? Both of them seem to be good for our back. The seat of gaming chair is a little bit harder than shear of working char. And probably gaming chair is easier to relax. (It means working chair might better for our back, if we sit for a long hours.)
I do pc work on the chair, but I also read books, so I decided to buy gaming chair type.
My husband Yuki and I live in a regional city. Our retirement life has state since 2020. Though Something good, exciting, worried or bad often happens, we try to focus the current situation and spend enjoyable days while living offf our savings little by little carefully.
