It is my performance day at Karaku cafe. In the afternoon.
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Continuing from yesterday I translated this article.
Dear trouble shooter
I'm a housewife in my late 50's I have two children; they are already married and independent. I live with my husband and my mother in our house.
My daughter who lives in a different prefecture. She and her husband are raising their child together while they work. When she came here, she said to me.
"When my brother and I were little, you only spoiled him, you were really strict with only me. Your child raising had a big difference. “
Raising her child reminds her of the difference. So, she decided to only one child. She never wants her child to have such feeling.
My daughter was selfish, and very offensive. However, I never have thought that I discriminated on brother and sister. I interacted her as well as my son.
I asked an advice to my husband. However, he said “Don’t involve me, it is a problem between two of you.”
I have a good relation ship with my son. How do I communicate with my daughter from now on?
Adviser
Miscommunication often occur, doesn’t it? However, if it happens in a family, it sometimes causes a big trouble.
Your daughter and your son had different characters, so you intreated them in different ways, but you loved and cherished both of them equally.
On the other hand, your daughter’s feeling that she was not loved as well as her brother is true for your daughter.
It is a pointless argument which is right. Could you apologize her? It doesn’t mean that you accept you didn’t love her well. You should proud of your love to her. But you should accept that your daughter felt sad and your behaviors hurt her. And from now on, you try to heal her such her feelings. You might thing that it’s not fair. However, it is very important to build better relation ship with her from now on.
The bigger trouble is your husband remark. It is not fair. You should face to him behavely.
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