Thankfully my new PC came around 4pm after finishing video phone with my mother. I started setting up. Yuki was also with me, but there were some things we couldn’t deal with. So I called the technical center “some” times. In the middle of the setting (getting advice from the technical center) Yuki went to the studio to join his band practicing.
I made it. There are some things I have to do to set it up perfect.
Today my new PC is going to come, but it is nice clear when it comes. Do I set the PC today (or tonight) ? Tonight Yuki goes to attend his band practice. And tomorrow a pretty and noisy storm will come, which is called Ah-chan.
It is Sunday. It rains today, but mostly it’s drizzle. It is not so cold than yesterday. And we have no plans because of rain.
So, we decided to go out seeing cherry blossoms at ‘the ‘ hill park where we go every spring.
Yesterday I went to the game. I did yesterday’s my mission.
Today in the morning a visitor comes to my house. In the afternoon I have no plan. Probably I will do what I usually do like practicing the piano, reading books, or doing yoga while waiting my mother’s video phone.
Tomorrow we are going to Tokyo again to visit my mother in-law.
Today it is the last day for a student to take my piano lesson. In April I have only one student to take my piano lesson.
So if she came here, she would feel uncomfortable and be considerate.
We might go out to have lunch outside to refresh. Well, last we also had lunch outside. These days we tend to get generous in spending our money on our daily life. Going to Tokyo more is an unexpected thing. So “We need to tighten our belt” . ( recently I knew this sentence. Does it make sense?)
So I was going to be free today. But last night suddenly my PC didn’t work. I called PC support center fortunately it was opining hours. Gettin advice on 5e phone I checked my PC. It didn’t have mechanical failure. And it I was time-limited. Today I try to fix my computer checking softwares while getting advice on t ephemeral in the morning.
Everyday something i unexpected happens these days.
And I asked Yuki to research new PC at reasonable price keeping the same or more ability of current one. Well it is about time to have windows11 PC.
If I and positive, I can say “oh, it is exciting to face to new version. But, I don’t like new IT gadget.
But, the situation of my mother in-law is sudden changed. Her anxiety seemed to get max. She did a strange action. So, at nursing home irregular meeting is going to be held on the day we were planing to take her to an ear clinic.
In the morning my sister in-law who is Yuki’s brother’s wife talk on the phone.
Talking with daughters of my mother in-law is probably done more calmly then with her sons.
Good morning. Today it is my performance day. Compared these three days, it is cold. Do I need to put on a sweater? My mother in-law decided to change her hearing aid into new one. Hearing aids are really expensive in Japan. But in her case she can get one at reasonable price using Japanese welfare system. But she can’t take care of the application by herself anymore. So we do. We need to go to the ward office in Tokyo sometimes. We need to take her to a clinic sometimes. Doing these things car is necessary and we should go there on weekday. We have a car and we can do it on weekdays. But, it is far from here to Tokyo. So, I have started to contact with the ward office. Thanks of corona pandemic some process Are possible to do by phone, and mail service.: I knew this thing yesterday when I talked the welfare department of the ward office on the phone.
One of my casual dress is tight. I know it. So I didn’t put it on. But I like the cloth. So I took out stitches of tacks and loosened it. It is all right, though the shape has been changed a little.
Today's troubleshooter in the newspaper was interesting to me.
Because I might be in the same situation like this "mother". I think "some women" gets older, they seem to want to depends on their "daughters" more. Or they have nostalgic feeling of their previous family image.
I tried to translate the article.
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Troubleshooter March 8th
My mother gives off a negative aura to me
Dear Troubleshooter:
I’m in my 40’s. I have a trouble with my mother. I’m marred. There are four members, two kids, my husband and me in my family. When I visit my mother with my kids, she always claims to feel sick and complains and she always say gloom and doom things. I’m sick and tired of talking with her.
What she is interested in is only her health situation, and what she talks about is only about it. She doesn’t go anywhere, doesn’t clean up the house, and doesn’t cook. She buys delicatessens. She spends a very boring life. I advices her to talk with her friends or to go to Karaoke with her friends. However she doesn’t listen to me.
She is mentally unstable. So she goes to the psychiatrist and takes sleeping tablets. My father lives with her and works at near their house. He seems to be fed up with her, but he seems to get along with her. She seems to be afraid to be alone in the house. She says to me to quit my job and stay home. I have my own family, so I can’t take care of her a lot.
I can’t stand it. I want not to visit her.
Dear Ms. C
You seem to be overwhelmed by your mother’s negative aura, but you seem not to be able to leave her. It is your kindness, isn’t it?
However, sometimes kindness is a double-edged sword. It eases other’s anxiety and settles the feeling. On the other hand you might be overwhelmed by their trouble, and bear the burden.
If you are in hard situation, the best way is take a distance with her. It doesn’t mean “leaving her”. It is the best way that each other cherish their lives and their family.
Fortunately, your father gets along with your mother, even though he is tired of her. I think it is all right to leave your mother to your father.
And she also go to the psychiatrist. So it is better to leave her trouble and mental pain to the psychiatrist. A doctor is a third person, so business and emotions don't mix. He can give her sound advice. And you should take enough distance from her mentally and physically. You will help her when something happens to her.
However this time the service changed. Not the price. The age. Senior service is offered more than 65-year old men( women). Until last month the service was offered more than 60-year old people.
Anyway today I will have my haircut at my friend’s beauty salon. She has still offered me friend’s discount.
Though I take medicine! I have a runny nose and I feel dull. ( Well “ I feel dull” is one of my favorite phrase.)
Today we will go to a Negi (Japanese green onion) farm, of course to get Negi. Probably it will be the last time this year.
In the morning Yuki goes playing tennis, I go to the gym (as usual).
Yesterday, a boy who used to come to study English at my house visited me in the morning. Now he goes to medical school. We talked a lot. When Yuki came back from tennis at noon three of us had lunch outside. It was a good day for me.
River fishing around this area has started.
Though it is cloudy, he is going to “see” the river when he has a license card to allow to fish.
Usually on Mondays Yuki has no tennis, so we go outside to do errands. So I don’t go to the gym. Well, I have no excuse,so today I will go to the gym in the morning.
Shall I go to buy special cake?
In the morning I will go to the gym, then Yuki and I are going to a department store in the afternoon. I got a request from my mother. It is a good excuse to go to the department store. And going to the department is also good excuse for Yuki. Because near the department store Yuki’s favorite “mazesoba” restaurant. I will cafe lunch at a cafe, and Yuki enjoy his vacation orate “mazesobal. We well have lunch outside separately. It has no problem, doesn’t it?
Today I am going to have lunch with my friend. (Yuki has already left to play golf).
It is the first time in three years to have lunch with a friend outside. Since corona pandemic started, I haven't.
Well, it is not correct.
The friend sometimes come to my house and have tea together.
Yuki and I sometimes have visited The restaurant where today we are going to for these three years.
And actually my friend and I also have quick inexpensive lunch together outside.
Our excuse is that “before the price of lunch at the restaurant is up we should go there.”
