Lunch diary 0330 short version

 

It is the last day of March. Thankfully we have lots of events. It is ? or was difficult for me to adjust to the difference of temperature. I hope it won’t get back cold. Today I will organize my winter clothes, while discarding 10 things.

Good morning 0329

 

It is raining and windy. It is a little bit rough day. In the morning we go to the hospital. 

Yesterday I set the timer to bake this bread. It smelled good this morning. 

April comes in two days. Unfortunately cherry blossoms don’t bloom yet. They seem to bloom later cherry blossom forecast of this year. One of my friend  went out to see cherry blossoms in Kyoto. She planned it last month. However they don’t bloom yet. I hope she will enjoy the trip without cherry blossoms.

Good morning 0328

 

It is cloudy, not rainy. So probably we have some audience at the library today. I do volunteer reading with the staff at the library today. 

As you know today it is 28th. 2 is pronounced “ni” in Japanese. 8 is pronounced “ha(chi)” in Japanese. At KFD it is called the day of “ni wa(ha) “. “Niwa(tori)” is chicken in Japanese. They sell 1000 yen special boxes every 28th day. Yuki loves one. This is our dinner. I don’t need cook dinner today. 

Good morning 0327

 

It is sunny. Yuki has already gone. It is the first time for him to play golf in a half of year. This half of year our situation has changed. However as of now we are fine. 

Additionally next week he is going to play golf again. According to his plan he plays golf once or twice a month. 

And the day after tomorrow he is going to take immunotherapy. 

Then tomorrow I am going to do volunteer reading at the library. It is the first for me in three years. Unfortunately the volunteer is only me. The situation of volunteers is different now. 

Well, the heater in the kitchen is working somehow now. But there is a strange noise. It is an old heater. Though I cleaned it as much as I could, I wonder if it’s reaching the end of its lifespan.

Good morning 0326

It is raining. Yesterday it rained too. Yesterday Yuki’s you best brother was going to come play tennis. It was canceled. Today it is raining, so Yuki can’t play tennis again. But tonight he is going to join his band practice. This weekend he has a live performance. 

I will go to the gym in the morning.  I will start to organize my closet little by little.  At first I will check the first drawer. 

lunch diary 0323

 

These are sweets, which are sold at McDonald's in Japan. These are seasnoal hot sweet red beans pie. What kind of seanoal sweets are sold at Mctonald's in your country?

Visit to Kadokawa culture museum

 

It is a maginificient book libraly museum!!

HP is there. 

Kadokawa Culture Museum (kadcul.com)

Additionally on the day, we bought a morning set at Macdonald, and had UDON noodle for our lunch. Then We bought hogdogs at Costo for our dinner!

We saved food expense on the day!!!

Good morning 0323

 

Yesterday we went to Tokyo. 

We were going to visit Yuki’s mother, but we didn’t. In her nursing home a person who is in the same floor of Yuki’s mother was caught by corona virus. So unfortunately we canceled to visit the nursing home to prevent risk. Because Yuki is going to take immunotherapy next weekend.

Do you think it is not national?

We visited my mother’s grave. Our elder daughter joined us.

Then we visited a museum. We could have enough time to visit there. 

It was a good “leisure” day. 

Additionally, to save money we fueled our car at Costco gas station before leaving here and  fuel our car again when we got back here at Costco and had 180 yen hot dog for our dinner!

Trouble shooter 0320

It was an interesting article. So I  translated it. I open it makes sense. 

Trouble shooter 0320

I’m in my 60’s, and don’t work. I would like to get some advice about my wife who is also in her 60’s. Since we got married, about 40 years have passed.

Recently I retired. I have much more time to spend my wife together. She is highly emotional. When she loses her temper, she gets out of control. She is always bat-mouthing other people.

　

She says bad things about not only me, her parents, sisters and brothers, our children, her friends, managers of her former workplace, and also celebrities.

Usually, she talks in conjecture, I want to cover my ears. She always says to me “you are always looking down on me because I graduated from only high school. “

When I deny it saying “I don’t do that”, she won’t listen to a word I say.

I’m tired of her. I’m thinking if I will be able to spend the rest of my life with her. She has a lot of good things. But I want her to understand how I feel when she is saying bad things about other people.

Adviser (a philosopher)

Your trouble is that you can’t bear that your wife says bad things about other people. However, it is no use giving words of caution to her. You told me that once you did it, a big quarrel happened. From the start it is a problem to use the phrase “giving words of caution”. This phrase is used to subordinates.

You and your wife are on an equal footing, aren’t you?

　

Then there must be some reasons when people insult other people. Is she really angry to other people? A French philosopher Alan says in his book about couples. "People who are in a bad mood, there must be some reason."

If he or she has much room in their heart, they don’t insultsay other people. Philosopher Alan recommends to smile to them who are in a bad mood. What you should do is not to cover your ears with your hands, to try to make her laugh, and relax. If you continue doing it, naturally she says less bad things about other people

Good morning 0321

 

It is sunny here. But it is snowing in the northern part of this prefecture. 

I finished taking apart of kimono of my friend. She gets started organizing her clothes. I also should do it more. There are still winter clothes in my closet.when I change them into spring ones, I will try to discard some of winter clothes. My goal is seven outfits for each season, though except coats, formal ones, sports outfits, and so on.  (Probably exception is too much).

Good morning 0320

 

It is a holiday. It is sunny, though according to the weather report it was going to be rainy. Yuki goes playing tennis as usual  in the morning. My gym is closed. So—- I have to go to the library to return a book. Yesterday I walked there, Then when I came home I noticed there was one book left. So I will walk there again. If I walk there, today’s my exercise mission will be finished.

Well, yesterday I went to the library. On the other hand, Yuki went to a used book shop to sell four books including mine. Fortunately they were sold and he bought another used book there. Four books changed one book. We could put away three things. It was good.

What I want to say is that he prefers buying books to borrowing ones at the library.

Good morning 0319

 

It is cold today. According to the weather report it will be colder tomorrow. Pollen , difference of daily temperature — it is a tough season, isn’t it? 

Anyway Yuki constantly go playing tennis. Great! And his tennis mates are also great!

Yesterday I finished reading all books which I borrowed at library. So do I walk to the library to return them? It is cold today. 

Good morning 0318 with lunch diary 0316

 

A new week has started.

This week we are going to visit my parent’s grave (my grandmother is also there) and see Yuki’s mother I the nursing home. 

I have some kimono of my friend. I am asked to take them apart. Taking them apart watching TV is a good way to kill time. Or good excuse to watch TV.  To say more correctly I watch TV programs through streaming services with  catch-up on PC. Anyway today’s mission is going to the gym to tell the truth, last week I didn’t go to the gym.

In two weeks

 

Yesterday, Yuki took blood test and saw his doctor. 

Unfortunately the result of X-ray doesn’t change so much, but the blood test value is getting better, so he takes less steroids medicine and will start taking immunotherapy in two weeks.

Side effects  might occur, but anyway his treatment starts. 

Good morning 0315

 

Though the bread on the photo are a little burnt, they are Costco bread. Costco was crowded more than we expected. It was a good leisure day. 

Today I hold a laughter yoga meeting. 

This week we were scheduled fully. 

A lazy weekend is waiting for me. 

Good morning 0314

 

Today, we will be members of Costco. 

It is a day for me to take cognitive behavioral therapy at a clinic. When I started to take it, I went there by myself. Next time, Yuki took me in his car. Then, we have decided to be members of Costco. Costco is just 5 minute drive from the clinic. 

So it is our leisure day. 

Additionally yesterday in the evening Yuki’s younger brother came here from Tokyo by local train. They drank outside and I joined them later having coffee. Yesterday it was also a leisure day.

Good morning 0313

Good morning. It is sunny. Yesterday I performed with my friend happily! However I had a trouble with runny nose. I have pollen allergy, so that I take medicine constantly in this season. But yesterday I had worse runny nose. So I took another strong medicine.  As soon as I finished my performing I went back home in Yuki’s car, and fell asleep. 

 

Good morning 0312 trouble shooter0309

 

It seems to come rain in the afternoon. In the morn No Yuki us going to play tennis with his new shoes. 

It is my performance day at Karaku cafe. In the afternoon.

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Continuing from yesterday I translated this article.

Dear trouble shooter

I'm a housewife in my late 50's I have two children; they are already married and independent. I live with my husband and my mother in our house.

My daughter who lives in a different prefecture. She and her husband are raising their child together while they work. When she came here, she said to me.

"When my brother and I were little, you only spoiled him, you were really strict with only me. Your child raising had a big difference. “

Raising her child reminds her of the difference. So, she decided to only one child. She never wants her child to have such feeling. 

My daughter was selfish, and very offensive. However, I never have thought that I discriminated on brother and sister. I interacted her as well as my son.

I asked an advice to my husband. However, he said “Don’t involve me, it is a problem between two of you.”

I have a good relation ship with my son. How do I communicate with my daughter from now on?

Adviser

Miscommunication often occur, doesn’t it? However, if it happens in a family, it sometimes causes a big trouble. 

Your daughter and your son had different characters, so you intreated them in different ways, but you loved and cherished both of them equally. 

On the other hand, your daughter’s feeling that she was not loved as well as her brother is true for your daughter. 

It is a pointless argument which is right. Could you apologize her? It doesn’t mean that you accept you didn’t love her well. You should proud of your love to her. But you should accept that your daughter felt sad and your behaviors hurt her. And from now on, you try to heal her such her feelings. You might thing that it’s not fair. However, it is very important to build better relation ship with her from now on.

The bigger trouble is your husband remark. It is not fair. You should face to him behavely.

Good morning 0311

 

Today we are going to buy each sport shoes.

My big toe hurt.

Yuki sometimes has a cramp in his leg.

It is about time to buy new shoes. 

I like this article in the newspaper . It was posted by a subscriber who is 71 years old woman.

--I am growing flowers like my late mother. --

My mother passed away when she was 99. Everyone surrounded her said "you had a good life, you did your best" . I sometimes feel her saying to me "try to live it through up no matter what difficulty fell on you" from the heaven.

Looking back, she supported me saying "hang in there" when I was facing the most difficult time in my life, and I was very negative. Her saying and action are still now my emotional support. 

Her husband (my father) and son (my brother)  passed away earlier than her. She got through many difficult times. However, she never showed her crying. She is my role model in my life.

I have two ways to enjoy spring. One is growing flowers and weeding like her. The other is walking hills full of colorful spring flowers. 

I'd like to live each day to the fullest with smile. I'm excited in coming spring. Thanks Mom.

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As I told you that this subscriber is 71 years old. How youthful and cheerful!

(I hope this translation makes sense)

Lunch diary 0309

 

Do you know “chkmeruli”?

Yesterday, “finally” we went to a concert for which Yuki’s friend played the sax phone. It was the first time to go to a big concert at a hall in three or four years.

Well, since yesterday my left first toe has hurt. why? Did I walk too much last week? 

Actually I walked constantly more than two weeks ago. 

Anyway somewhere always hurts these days.