Good morning 0626

 

It is cloudy. It was raining very early morning, but now it has stopped. It seems  to be on schedule in the morning ;playing tennis, and going to the gym. 

It suddenly got humid. I took off the carpet in the room and now it is being washed by washing machine. I will take it to dry to a nearby laundromat.

Yesterday a friend visited me in the afternoon. She doesn’t mind to do things with my husband. (Some female friends hesitate to act three of together.) it is a good excuse for Yuki to go have lunch. 

We had grilled beef.  Two days in a row, we had lunch outside. This week it is the end of this month . According to my plan I was going to become more stingy about our expenses.

Anyway we had a good time. After lunch she and I talked, talked at home. Yuki didn’t join this women’s conversation. 

Good morning 0625

 

It is not raining. It is cloudy and humid. Yesterday we visited a temple where it takes 50 minutes by car. Unfortunately the busiest monk was out, so We couldn’t see and pray  the main Buddhist statute directly, though we see it through the window. 

My main purpose was to get information about loquat moxibustion. Recently I knew that the temple is said to be origin one loquat moxibustion. 

It was a really hot day, but we had had good lunch and came home. 

Good morning 0624

 

A new week has started. This week we don’t have special events. Rainy season has started. It is said to be shorter than usual. 

However today it is sunny, so go out to visit  a temple. 

Yesterday I joined the meeting of cancer patients and their family. This time  I had a chance to talk to a senior doctor. He said it is important to research current information, and it is also important t of know what is cancer. He recommend us to read a book written by Siddharata Mukherjee.

(I cannot find the English version, though the original one must be written in English) 

lunch diary 0622

 

This week I walked enough! Good job, Mieko.

Today I attend a meeting for cancer patients and their families. To tell the truth I feel awkward because mainly the paticipates are cancer patients or ex-cancer patients.

Anyway today I'll join them. After then I'm not sure to attend it constantly.

Good morning 0622

 

It is sunny, today. Yuki goes playing tennis as usual. Yesterday he took immunotherapy. If things goes well, he will take it until October. Then, he will take just  “follow-up” whether the tumor will react, get bigger, or move to somewhere. 

Thanks to immunotherapy five year survival rate gets higher, but——. This is our character thinking “but —-“. 

I cut lavenders in my garden. They are being dried now. I make lavender tincture for my skin.

I also cut loquat leaves. And we drink loquat leave tea for our health. Do you know that loquat leaves and seeds have many good things for cancer?

We want to spend our lives calmly (and stingily?).

Good morning 0621

 

It is cloudy. Today we go to see Yuki’s doctor. Then he is supposed to take immunotherapy. I am walk back home. Do I need an umbrella? If it rains I will wait for him at Starbucks in the hospital. There is a Starbucks in the hospital.

Anyway this week is almost finished. We cleared all mission. This Sunday I will attend a meeting for cancer patients and their families. Yuki goes playing tennis as usual if it is not rainy. 

This week a young mother came here with her little daughter. She borrowed some English picture books from my “house library”. My home library activity has been kept by such a sudden visitors anyway. It makes me surprised and happy.

Good morning 0620

 

It is sunny, again. Today we go to Costco, it means I take cognitive behavioral therapy at clinic. I have already listed up what I would tell her. 

One is about my health situation : changing Japanese Kanpou, dizziness, CBT on the net.

Another one is about my feeling: having mood swings (my depression comes after having fun things, or after meeting some ladies in the same of my generation)

The other one is our plan or his thought : Yuki has started thinking about the way against his cancer after finishing immunotherapy. We also revised our retirement financial plan, etc. 

However today’s main mission is “Costco “. Today’s dinner at home is “the chicken”.

Good morning 0619

 

It seems to be hot again. Real rainy season will start from this weekend. Anyway today Yuki can go playing tennis. I have to go to the gym and do walking exercise. 

Yesterday it was really cold for me. The heater in my room was cold. The coldness made me fell down, though it can’t be helped.

I finally put away my pink suit which was used when my kids were little. I have blue one. Probably it is enough. For me it is really difficult to put away clothes. Any clothes have my memory. “And” I can still put on all of them. Because basically my shape hasn’t changed since I was in my 30’s. 

Hydrangeas

Yesterday we went to see hydrangeas.  At a temple all hydrangeas had name plates. Of course we didn’t remember. Anyway we know various kinds of hydrangeas. Well hydrangeas are hydrangeas like rose are roses.

Then we had steak lunch. We ordered chicken and beef, and shared them. Saying more correctly Yuki age 2/3, I ate 1/3. Of course it is a good thing that Yuki has enough appetite.

It is rainy today. Rainy season seemed to start

 

 

Good morning 0617

 

It is Monday. It seems to get hot. Yesterday afternoon the heat seemed to get to me, I was lying down.

This week Yuki is supposed to see the doctor and take immunotherapy. One month seems to pass really quickly. We are happy without any problems. 

Today we are going to see hydrogens at a temple.

lunch diary 0615

 

An eel shop has opened newly near our house. So we had dinner there! How luxrious night we had!

Good morning 0614

 

It is sunny. It seems to become hot.  Before rainy season starts, we seem to be on hot summer rehearsal. 

Today I hold a laughter yoga meeting. Two senior ladies are supposed to come. Though I usually prepare something sweets, one of them finally prohibited to take sweets strictly to control her blood sugar. It is all right to take natural sugar from three times meal. 

I made coffee jelly without sugar.

Oh, I have to say it.

Finally Yuki trimmed trees in our garden last evening. Additionally I also did it lightly in early yesterday morning.

Good morning 0613

 

Good morning. Yesterday, I did exercise (walking exercise, going to the gym, and yoga at home). Lilies are open.  Doing exercise is “job” for Yuki and me.

Yuki walked more than 12000 steps playing golf.

We put “expensive” bath powder which components are almost the same of a famous hot spring into the bath. It made us feeL like being in a real hot spring bath.

I think in the near future I want to go on a one day trip nearby hot spring. (There are many hot springs where we can go there for one and a half hour drive).

On the other hand I am afraid to tourist sites while Yuki takes steroids. He is said to be susceptible able to minor infections. I know it is contradiction, because we go to crowded Costco (even thou by we go there on a weekday, it is crowded.) The reason is just that I am stingy and we are troublesome go on a trip. 

Good morning 0612

 

Yuki has already left to play golf. 

Yesterday my gym mates came to cafe Karaku . So thankfully the cafe was full (and noisy by women’s talk).

We will keep doing what we can do on the day.  Though I take Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, after fulfilling and busy days, I tend to feel anxiety. 

Today to do do walking exercise, I will walk around to do errands (like going to the post office, and banks.)

Good morning 0611

 

It is sunny. Will it be hot? Today it is the day of my performance.

I am going to put on long sleeved shirt. Will it be hot? Probably all right. Because when it is hot, usually air condition is on at any places. So I always put on my jacket.

When I go out in hot season, I always take my jacket, and a spare undershirt or T shirt. When  I go into somewhere like cafes after sweating outside, I sometimes have a light cold  easily. 

My body temperature only adjust  to very narrow limit. (Does it make sense?)

trouble shooter 0610

There was sucn an article on yesterday's newspaper.

Probably the same thing happend on my younger brother and me. Then we broke up. It is no use crying over split milk.

At that time I talked about our relationship to some friends. Every one said "it happened any where".

Trouble shooter

I’m in my middle 50’s. I’d like to get some advice about my mother who is in her 90’s.

My mother goes to elderly taking care center once a week. On the other days, my elder brother who lives with her takes care her. However, he serves her breakfast and dinner, and changes her dipper at that time. During the day she is laid down on the bed without being served lunch.

My elder brother refuses someone come in to the house when he is out. He says “she is sleeping on the bed in the day time, so no one need to come to nurse her.”

I want her to talk some one in the day time, so want her to live in a nursery home. But he rejects my opinion saying “I take care of her”.

My mother is dementia, so she can’t understand her situation. I live far from her house. So, I only visit her once a week. I want to talk him into moving her to a nursing home. What should I do?

Adviser (professor)

I’m not sure how much your mother need to nurse, but it seems to be difficult that she takes care of herself. And I really understand it concerns you that your mother is at home alone in the day time. I think your brother is exhausted physically and mentally because he nurses your mother alone. In this situation, you suddenly advise him to let her move to the nursery home, it just makes him angry. Because he feels that his all efforts were denied by you.

It might be difficult to let your mother move to a nursery home, but it is impossible for someone to come in to their house to take care of her or to go to elderly taking care center more. 

However usually it is hard to listen relatives’ suggestion calmly. You will ask the stuff of the elderly taking care center, or someone to advise him.

On the hand you will express more your gratitude and appreciation to your elder brother.

Good morning 0610

 

It is Monday. Than we expected last week it was busy. 

Today we are going to revise our retirement budget savings plan. Since Yuki retired, 5 years passed. Finally we can receive public pensions constantly. 

For these five years unexpected things happened, it can’t be helped. We know the situation continues. 

Well, anyway while having breakfast we promised each other not to try to have quarrel. It is really difficult. I focus small daily finial things. Yuki does not mind it. I said “we should to keep the attitude to save”.

Lunch diary 0608

 

I got hoarse. Why?

 Yesterday a friend came here from far by car. I sometimes talk her on the phone, but it was the first time to see her in five years. She is one of “kindergarten mother mates”.  So other four mates joined us. All of us are  in our 60’s and 70’s. I thought I was quiet among them. But anyway this morning I got hoarse.

Good morning 0607

 

It is the last weekday of this week. I am going to attend Haiku meeting. I was reviewing my Haiku last night. 

Though it is an excuse, I am the youngest member in the group. So my Haiku seems too casual, or too modern way. Or they are childish, or classless. The first step to be involved in Haiku world was easy. 

Good morning 0606

 

Good morning.  It is cloudy. Japanese rainy season doesn’t come yet. But it seems to be just around the corner.

Today we have to go to seeing the lawyer. The inheritance procedure someone my brothers are not finished. We don’t have any quarrels , it means we don’t talk with each other. Everything is    going by my lawyer. Even though I gave up my right of my mother’s inheritance, than I expected I have to be involved the procedure for my brothers. 

Unfortunately our relationship among two brothers broke up, though I am able to talk with youngest brother. It is a really sad thing for me. 

Anyway I am able to live without my mother’s inheritance thanks to Yuki. He worked very well, and I think I also worked well as much as I could.

As his scheduled, Yuki retired, and an unexpected thing has happened. However we are enjoying our retirement life while I am complaining about decrease of our savings.

Additionally Father’s Day is just around corner. Our younger daughter asked Yuki what he wants. He asked her about budget. So she said “l’ll leave it to you”. So he asked “Mac Magic Mouse”. It is one necessary item for his new Mac. It is expensive so he is searching used Mac Magic Mouse. And , as Yuki and I thought, it was expensive for our younger daughter. So, she said “ all right it is a present of a Father’s Day &your birthday”. 

Additionally more, probably our elder daughter will just call him, it is her style. When her exhibition is held she always treats us. I hope this year her  exhibition will be held somewhere. (To say more correctly, the organizer like art museum stuff treats us. )

Good morning 0605

 

Good morning, it is sunny. I almost forgot today’s schedule “going to the dentist”. I will go to the gym in the afternoon, today. Yuki might go taking massages. He feels his leg muscle hard. So instead of playing tennis, he goes fishing (catch and release) to the nearby river.

As one of my habits, I listen to the radio in the bed early morning while dozing. Today they talked about retirees’ financial problem. Many retirees live with their pension and savings. But if you are still middle seniors( in your 60’s or early 70’s), you should think to work again and stop decreasing your savings. It is getting harder to get by. When something  unexpected happens, you are into financial failure. 

Well, well, unexpected thing has already happened on us. This talk only made me feel uneasy. 

So, I “declared” that “we should save more, especially food expenses including alcohol in the morning.

Yuki said “your saying is always the same thing”. Yuki advised to Check more strictly our total retirement budget plan. But both of us give up facing it again. “Que sera sera”.

Good morning 0604

 

Good morning. It is sunny (probably in the afternoon or evening, it seems to rain.) yesterday we went to a shrine which takes about one and hour by car. We could attend player coincidentally.

Our usual days have started. I should go to the gym and do walking exercise before raining. Yuki goes playing tennis, and still now continue setting and organizing his new Mac. (To say more correctly, mastering the new music software).

A book I booked on net of city library arrived at a nearby library. I have to walk there to take it. It is easy to do walking exercise, because I have a mission to take it. 

Good morning 0603

 

June has started. A new week has started. To tell the truth today we were planing to go to Tampa shrine in Tokyo by train. But we didn’t. There is no special reason. We don’t have enough motivation to go there.

Today we might go to a shrine which takes about one hour by car. But it is not sure. It is “cold” for me , though it is sunny . (According to the weather report it will rain in the afternoon.)

Anyway we will go somewhere in the morning for example a shrine, Costco and so on.

Lunch diary 0601 short version

 

When I was making this video in English, I mistakenly deleted some photos. So is time I added subtitles to this Japanese version. If you are interested in it, please the mode of subtitles is on.

The biggest topic is coming  a new Mac.

Yuki’s daily routine got busier, and our saving , and I filed out a big number  in our household account book.